دور الامهات مع اطفالهن من ذوي المشاكل الخاصة قبل دخول المدرسة

المدارس علي الابواب و كل ام تهيء اطفالها نفسيا لدخول المدرسة ، بعض الامهات لديهم مسئولية اكبر في تهيئة اطفالهم و هم من لهن اطفال لديهم بعض المشاكل الجسمانية مثل العيوب الخلقية مثل ضعف السمع او الرؤية الشديدين او السمنة المفرطة او قصر القامة او غيره من ذلك : ماذا تفعل الامهات مع اطفالهن في هذا الشان
1- طمانة و تشجيع الطفل للذهاب الي المدرسة لاثبات ذاته و التعلم .
2- البعد عن مناقشة عيوبه الجسمانية و التركيز علي مناقشة مزايا المدرسة و كذلك مزايا ه الشخصية و التعليمية و الفنية و الرياضية المرتبطة بالمدرسة .
3- تذكير الطفل بالمواقف الجيدة التي تثبت ثقته بنفسه في المجال الدراسي و العلافة مع الاخرين.
4- عند مناقشة الطفل او تخوفه من عيوبه الخلقية ذكريه دائما بمزاياه الاخري و دائما ما تذكري له بالامثلة من الواقع من ناجحين في الحياه قد عانوا من نفس حالته .
5- ازالة اسباب الخوف المرتبط بمشكلته الجسمانية بالتركيز علي اعطاؤه بعض النصائح بكيفية تكوين اصدقاء و التميز فيما يجيده لان تقديره لذاته ينبع من ارتباط الاخرين بشخصيته.
6- التفاعل مع مدرسي المدرسه لتشجيع الطفل عند تميزه و كذلك تكليفه بالمهام العادية للاطفال الاخرين فلا داعي لتمييزه و تركه دون تكاليف او واجبات لمرضه .
7- تعليم طفلك ان التميز و الود و المرح هم ادواته للتفاعل الاجتماعي مع باقي الاطفال و لا داعي للتوقف عند تعليق بعض الاطفال عليه ، بل احكي له ان هذه الاور قد تحدث للجميع و ان ما يفرق هو علاقته الشخصية .و ان عليه ان لا يبتعد عن الجميع عند تكرار مضايقات من احد بل عليه تمية صداقات اخري و الابتعاد فقط عن من يتكرر منه ذلك. و يجب التفاعل مع المدرسين لابتعاد الاطفال عن مثل هذه التعليقات.
الهدف الحقيقي هو تبدبد مخاوف الطفل و اشعاره بالثقة و تقدير الذات و اهمية الذهاب للمدرسة علميا و اجتماعيا

د/ احمد البحيري
استشاري الطب النفسي – بالامانة العامة للصحة النفسية
0124126363
drbeh@hotmail.com

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fear of social life:

your alike others and other like to know you.- you have to know some statments of social act like how r r , peace for you - you have to encourage your self to know what other like to talk about , gossip, jokes, politics, sport- talk while you have a good contact in others eye.- smile ( not laugh) when you regurally talk - train your self to send smiles and eye sight for evey one you r talking to - if you think you r less than others , think also they cant read your mind they see your act .- no one of your friends r from the intelligence or CIA to watch you , just they want to have a nice time with you - reply and invest on whom who talk and like to talk to you - social life like a building need effort and time .- share others in your habbits.9 art m music , etc) if you cant with stand social life and you avoid it i think it is nt a matter of shyness and training you may have what is called , social anxiety disorders , that may need a psychiatric consultation , it is so simple to be treated now fears of other gender :- it is situational anxiety when you talk to other gender than you >- it is related to shyness and social life fears but more specific to other gender- it is nt a matte r of sex it is your social life - talk in subject related to the situation and person not related to sex or gender.- your alike others and other like to know you.- you have to know some statments of social act like how r r , peace for you - you have to encourage your self to know what other like to talk about , gossip, jokes, politics, sport- talk while you have a good contact in others eye.- smile ( not laugh) when you regurally talk - train your self to send smiles and eye sight for evey one you r talking to - if you think you r less than others , think also they cant read your mind they see your act .- no one of your friends r from the intelligence or CIA to watch you , just they want to have a nice time with you - reply and invest on whom who talk and like to talk to you - social life like a building need effort and time .- share others in your habbits.9 art m music , etc) dr ahmed albehairy,M.Sc,DPP,M.Dconsultant psychiatry,general psychiatry & addiction 01241263630106085202

fear of exams:

for students:- fear of exam is nt a bad sign , no one ll do his best except he had a fear from exam.- trust in god and your previous effort.- try to think in your previous successful times.- delay and cancel all scedules that may interfer exam or studying .- plan for studying and exam .- plan for what ll you do after exam and sucess.- try to know your positive and negatives as regard the exams.- make a scheme for what r you studying to facilitat revision,- training for the exam by doing home work of previous exams or rehursal for oral exam ( at least 7-9 rehrsals).- be RElaxed on time of exam and sleep at least 6-8 hours- try to concentrate in revision on exam day on main points , dnt read details in that time.for parents:- try not to compare between sibs.- avoid critical comment and encourage .- help your child for rehursal and reviewing - motivate your child for studying esp by long standing non material issues ( motivate his ambition and plan for the future) - 5 = 10 min rest every 30 min studying - he has to to comprehend and interpretate the subject not only to rehurse it .- explore the potentialities distinctive in your child.some students have an execessive fears and palpitation and worried from exam which may prevent them from examination , so they need psychiatric consultation

fear of wedding night:

for men : - be your self not a part of a flm of experience of your friends.- be relaxed you r nt in an limited time exam - be in a good shape and odour.- you have rest of your life to try all form of sex>- try to build a relation with your wife it is nt a mechanical procedure.- mind not the body is the entrance for sexual satisfaction.- dnt spectatoring or monitor your self just act what do you feel.- kises and hugs and foreplay are the tool for socializing your marital relation- remember that wards and imagination is the gate for love- love leads to successful sex life- fine touch to the body of your wife is better than being aggressively sex in 1st time.- as much you want to satisfy and love your wife your feedback .- remember they r wedding nights not just one night- reassure your wife .- as much as you get your wife aroused , she ll nt feel pain .- sex is a dual relationship you make a bond with your wife .- dnt be shy that your shy , it s nice to be your 1st time with your bloved repectable wife.- avoid using drugs or alcohol ( except under medical supervision) as you need your self to experience that date. for women:- try to be nice as your husband like you to be.- love is your tool.- 0ff course avoid being in menstrual cycle or just before , to be in a good mood.- be relaxed it is nt an exam , million of women did it before you and they r happy ,- dnt concentrate on bad experience, as usually it is a disease or exaggeration of ignorant friends- trust your love and your husband.- try to think that you build a relation with your husband .- chatting , kissing , hugs foreplay it is your keys for successful sex life.- dnt shy to show your interests or satisfaction as this help reassurance for your husband.- avoid using drugs or alcohol ( except under medical supervision)- some wives are obsessd by being not virgin , this worries need reassurance and medical consultation and advice. some wives need consultation for execessive worries, which may make the wife to avoid the sexual intercourse ,